And we know how to help.
All of CVTC's services are open to everyone, but we understand that men often face additional challenges after being hurt. CVTC has New York City's only free program dedicated specifically to working with men who have been harmed.
Men are often taught to ignore their pain and tough it out in silence. If I talk about this will it make me look weak? Will people think I'm less of a man because someone hurt me? No. Being hurt has nothing to do with masculinity, strength or sexuality; it is about the perpetrator's need for power and control.
How can CVTC help?
CVTC has male and female therapists that are experts in the treatment of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), which is a typical result of being hurt. Talking about what happened with an expert who understands will help you start to heal. We can work with you to find healthy and effective ways to cope with your feelings and symptoms, and also help you grow beyond them.
CVTC offers many specialized groups for men who have been hurt. They range from intense experiences where you can talk about what happened to you with other men who have experienced similar things, to a short, co-ed workshop on PTSD. If you're interested, we'll help you choose the group that's right for you.
CVTC's Complementary Therapist offers complementary therapy modalities like meditation, hypnotism, shamanic journey work, guided imagery, intrinsic writing, and more to individuals receiving individual therapy at CVTC.
CVTC has a psychiatrist for a few hours per week to work with people (who are in individual therapy at CVTC) that are experiencing severe or overwhelming symptoms of PTSD.
What if I was hurt a long time ago?
If you were hurt yesterday, last year, or when you were a child, we're here to help. Many men who were abused during childhood keep that pain hidden for years before reaching out for help. Sometimes because of shame, sometimes because of fear, and sometimes because they think that they're ok. That pain can manifest in so many different ways, a few of which are listed below. We're here to help whenever you're ready.
Is what I'm feeling normal?
In short, yes. Everyone responds differently to trauma, so whatever you're feeling is a normal reaction for you. But, many men experience some form of the following:
Difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, nightmares.
Fear or avoidance of sex, feeling numb during sex, excessive or anonymous sex, excessive masturbation.
Difficulty maintaing personal, work or romantic relationships. Fear of being intimate or vulnerable with another person. Being too vulnerable or intimate too soon with another person.
Forgetfulness, often losing things like your keys, forgetting appointments, difficulty reading or focusing on work or other activities. Feeling disoriented or like you're in a fog. Constantly losing track of time.
Intrusive memories or Flashbacks
Frequent, sudden and upsetting memories about what happened. They may even feel physical (shaking, chills, fast heartbeat). Reliving the event, feeling like it's happening in the present moment.
Anxiety, Depression or Isolation
Felling anxious all the time, having panic attacks, feeling hopeless, feeling constantly in pain, burying emotions, avoiding friends or family.
Excessive use of alcohol, drugs, sex, food, shopping, gambling, exercise or work to numb or distract you from the feelings and memories. Using those things to escape.
We have helped thousands of men heal, and we're here to help you when you're ready.
Call us at 212-523-4728 to schedule an appointment, or to talk more about the services we offer.