The traumatic loss of a loved one is among the most devastating experiences a person can endure.
Losing a loved one to homicide is a traumatic, life-changing experience. A sudden, violent death does not allow those left behind to say good-bye and prepare in the same way that a non-violent death can. Feelings of grief, despair, or elements of self-blame, along with overwhelming thoughts about the person you've lost, may make it hard to live life. While those around you seem to “move on,” you may not yet be able to accept that the person you've lost is no longer here; the yearning and longing may overwhelm you. These are all common responses to a traumatic death, and when you're ready, CVTC can help.
How can CVTC help me?
CVTC's Traumatic Loss and Bereavement Program is here to support you during this time of grief. We know that the traumatic, unexpected loss of a loved one is often complicated by the involvement of hospitals, criminal justice, law enforcement, and others. CVTC can help you stay informed about what's happening and provide you with a space to heal. We offer:
Assistance with filing for compensation. The New York State Office of Victims Services (OVS) reimburses eligible survivors of crime any cost that is a direct result of the crime. CVTC can help you file awards for emergency memorial expenses, uncovered medical bills, and other costs resulting from the crime.
Advocacy. With your permission, we can help advocate for you with hospital staff, police, the District Attorney's Office, and other agencies to keep you informed about the case.
Immigration assistance. If you are undocumented, you may be eligible for a change in immigration status if you cooperate with police during a criminal investigation. We are available to discuss your options.
Trauma-focused therapy. Whenever you're ready, we're here to help you heal. We provide both individual therapy and support groups. We know that healing looks different for each person and respect each individual's experience.
Take care of yourself.
It's completely normal to experience a wide range of emotions after losing a loved one to violence. Your life may feel like a roller coaster as you notice your moods changing suddenly. Here are some ways to take care of yourself:
- Allow yourself to cry, laugh and feel angry. Any response in normal after such an extreme event.
- Take your time. Everyone heals at a different pace, and though others might feel ready to "move on," it doesn't mean you have to.
- Identify supportive people in your life. Seek them out and spend time with them.